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Disclaimer: This is a convoluted and I hope well-nuanced exploration of a difficult subject. I want to handle it with care and be fair, but I also want to be totally honest about what I feel and think, and not censor myself for the sake of political correctness. Remember, my thoughts don’t have to be yours, and no this isn’t an invitation for you to tell me how wrong you think I am because I simply don’t care.
Disclaimer: I was gonna put a disclaimer here about this post being harshly critical of Harry at some points, but then I thought, no, phuck off I’m tired of making disclaimers. Don’t read my stuff if you’re easily offended and quick to defend celebrities who don’t know or care that we exist. It just won’t be a good time for you.
Page One: Billy Porter’s Criticism of Harry Styles “The Queerbaiter”
Page Two: Harry Styles Used To Be “Open”
Page Three: Final Thoughts
Harry “daring” to be open in 2019 taught him a major lesson, I daresay. That being: truth is a bitch, truth is a chore, and truth hurts, so let’s hide behind yet another filthy and obnoxious lie. I simply cannot stomach this level of dishonesty. Fakers and liars deeply repel me, and they inhibit me from seeing anything positive about the people who exhibit these unforgivable traits. Curses! (**shakes fist at the heavens**) I never thought I would feel that way about Harry Styles.
Still, I would be remiss if I didn’t admit he did try to be “open” and tried to live his truth in late 2019 and early 2020; but I suppose to little avail. However, can we really give him credit for doing something “brave” or “honest” when he ultimately pulled an extreme 180, erased and overshadowed the openness he attempted last year, and then made himself look like a shallow hypocrite by falling face first into an PR gimmick with an attention whore and pseudofeminist?
As long as Harry keeps that woman around who shamelessly ditched her fiancé of 7 years to date an employee, and who abandons her children constantly to follow him around the country wearing his merch like a deranged groupie, he will never not look like a hypocrite who employs deceptive marketing tactics to maintain a broad audience. Everything he once stood for just comes off as manipulation of late, and clearly I’m not the only one who feels that way.
In an interview with British paper The Sunday Times, Porter argued there was a disconnect in the opportunities afforded to him as a Black, gay man and those given to Styles. “I feel like the fashion industry has accepted me because they have to,” he said. “I created the conversation (about non-binary fashion) and yet Vogue still put Harry Styles, a straight white man, in a dress on their cover for the first time.”
“I was the first one doing it and now everybody is doing it,” he said. “I’m not dragging Harry Styles, but… He doesn’t care, he’s just doing it because it’s the thing to do. This is politics for me. This is my life. I had to fight my entire life to get to the place where I could wear a dress to the Oscars,” Porter continued. “All (Styles) has to do is be white and straight.”
I’m happy Billy spoke up because it shows that not everyone is buying what Harry and his team are selling, and it sends the message that their tactics are transparent and will not hold up much longer.
Although Billy may not have been the first man to ever challenge gender norms (Freddie Mercury and Prince) nor don a ball gown (tbh I don’t know what other famous male has done this??) he tends to do so consistently, unapologetically, and has made headlines for doing so at major industry events long before Harry ever dared.
Although Harry has attributed his fashion inspiration to other unlikely influences like Shania Twain, it’s clear he felt brave enough to do what he did as a man on the cover of Vogue because of men like Billy Porter (and others) who started the conversation and are helping to destigmatize the idea of non-binary fashion in it’s most extreme forms as a way of life, not just a fleeting fad.
Regardless of whether you completely agree with Billy or not, his broader point was 1000% valid. That being: Harry seems to be a straight white male who only dates females, and who (unlike Billy who has had to overcome a great deal to champion non-binary dress and considers it a political statement and a LIFESTYLE not just a fad) Harry doesn’t seem to actually care about any of the issues he pretends to care about. According to Billy, he theoretically seems to be doing things just because they are the thing to do at the time, and that is arguably illustrated with how much he flip flops when it comes to his public persona.
People try to critique what Billy said about Harry’s Vogue article by pointing out that other people paved the way for non-binary dress before Billy did so himself, but that strikes me as a bit of a strawman argument. Here’s why:
Billy was clearly making a much broader point about Vogue as an establishment. Mainly how their choice of representation for that historical cover (first male ever) was a fickle young white dude who admittedly doesn’t take the non-binary clothing movement as seriously as someone like Billy does. He was pointing out Harry’s perceived “white privilege” which Harry has pointed out himself, yet like many other white celebrities he still accepts undeserved honors and opportunities that could be shared among people who are less priviledged and less represented.
Billy was also making a broader point about Harry as a person. That being: (this is my interpretation of Billy’s point) how Harry’s interest in non-binary fashion seems superficial. Also how he seems to be a straight, cis-gendered white dude (woke society’s public enemy #1) appropriating queer culture for shock value and marketing purposes.
And even if Harry is not actually straight, you can’t really get mad at Billy for assuming he is based on the image that Harry makes a concerted effort to project onto the world. In no reality is it implausible that Billy would conclude Harry is straight based on how he only ever dates women publicly, and also how he makes headlines for saying his songs are about “the female orgasm”, and how he makes a concerted effort to convince the world he’s obsessed with pu$$y.
I suppose ultimately what people are sensing about Harry that disturbs them so much (whether or not they can put a finger on it or describe it precisely with the correct label) is that he is a fraud and a faker (and I must admit that he very much is.) These people just don’t understand that the fake part and the somewhat fraudulent part is the occasional “straight guy” act he pulls in front of the paparazzi and in the media when he openly talks about “the female orgasm”.
The fact that anyone would describe Harry as “straight” these days shows how hard he works to mislead the public by only dating females and pushing his relationships with these females to the forefront of his marketing in both music and film, as opposed to, oh you know, just letting his work speak for itself! Harry is 1000% irrefutably and undeniably a narrative-pusher.
That was demonstrated with how he recorded an ex-girlfriend on a track about their breakup??? And how it was strategically done so that it would become the focal point of the album and became the only topic of concern whenever people discussed his music in the media???
Just like his first album which the media openly links to Kendall Jenner and Taylor Swift by Harry’s design. (I don’t care if he has a good reason for the narrative pushing, that doesn’t change the fact that he does do it and will do so again for his next album.)
He also now wants to tell the world Watermelon Sugar is about “the female orgasm” and have an entire arena of young girls shouting “pu$$y” at him every night as he runs around like a manic teenager asking “what does it taste like?” Whether he likes pu$$y or not is irrelevant here. If he doesn’t have the balls to ever come outright and talk about how much he likes dick or that he’s written about a man or that he’s dated a man, then everything he’s doing is calculated, inauthentic, and corny.
He also brings his “girlfriend” to 90% of his entire tour and allows her to dance like a cringy mid-life crisis at every show. He has also implanted a similar “straight” narrative into his acting legacy. Consequently anyone who talks about his resume will undoubtedly mention how he began sleeping with the director of his second movie, that being the tacky and unprofessional Olivia Wilde from “Don’t Worry Darling.”
His media-adored (*gags*) relationship with Olivia Wilde will strategically overshadow the fact that he played a closeted gay man in “My Policeman” (which I believe he signed up for when he as in the mindset of being “open and honest”) so as not to give anyone the impression he may be one himself! Oh gosh, can’t have people thinking he genuinely likes men. We can put him in fishnets and a ball gown and let him wear purses and paint his nails because that’s a playful and woke queer persona he can slip on and off at his convenience, but GOD FORBID anybody sincerely thinks he likes men! That is still TABOO.
Even the possibility that he is “bi” can only be hinted at and never actually confirmed because how else will he keep the hetero audience interested??? Once it’s known for a fact that a man fucks other men then it becomes irreparable, right? There’s no slipping that persona on and off at leisure, so it’s best Harry sticks with only showing the world he fucks women and that he loves pu$$y so much he wrote a song about it!
Since he chose that route, he really can’t get mad at people calling him out for how phony he seems. Consequently, to many it seems like Harry doesn’t actually care about queer issues since he’s not queer himself. He comes off as a deceptive marketer and an exploiter of identity politics. A less charitable label he’s earned over the years would be “queerbaiter.”
Page Two: Harry Styles Used To Be “Open”
It’s funny how the same few sad zstans always try to come here and defend him even in an post that is mostly critical of Harry. Haha I can’t wait to make a post on all the dumb, selfish, and dishonest shit Zayn has done and how most of it has destroyed Harry permanently. Coming soon! People who want to absolve Zayn of all blame come here and say “oh harry must still be struggling with his sexuality” no shit you morons, and why do you think that is???? It couldn’t possibly be because the person he has loved since he was like 17??? or 18??? consistently chooses to be with women over him? And got engaged to a woman and drove him crazy for years? and now had a baby with a woman after he wrote an entire album dedicated to his undeserving ass?? I’m not blaming Zayn for Harry’s shitty shitty choice of being with Olivia Wilde’s disgusting self, or all the superficial queer stuff he does that he tries to back down from when directly asked about it, that’s all on Harry and his poor choices and his personal confusion, but I do blame Zayn for scarring Harry permanently, making him feel like he isn’t enough by doing stupid shit like getting engaged while they were in a “down low” relationship, fucking up his sexuality since he was a teenager, never doing right by him, and also having a baby after he wrote fine line dedicated to him. And if you think it’s possible that Zayn doing these things had zero effect on Harry’s psychology and thinking patterns and self-esteem and self worth then you are hopelessly dense and need to stop clicking on this site because you will never understand anything being talked about here.
Billy apologised/explained? Hmm…
https://www.avclub.com/billy-porter-apologizes-for-dragging-harry-styles-but-1848002599
(2) Now, I know that Harry’s still young and going through phases and I think he’s a person who absorbes the energy of whoever he’s with the most, so no wonder he’s changing a lot right now. And I’d never turn my back on him or stop having massive amounts of love for him cause he simply is such a special person. But I have to admit that I’ll be glad when this phase is over, I feel a huge disconnect – and I don’t understand why people don’t see it, even without a Zarry mind. With Zarry in mind, it just hurts. The way he’s been hurt and how he’s now running full force like a maniac into the opposite direction (mind the pun) just makes me want to yell STOP at him and give him the biggest hug ever until he breaks. Being bisexual is an annoying thing btw, I’m bi myself and I’m even judging myself when I develop feelings for a guy cause I ‘actually’ identify as lesbian, but I can’t ignore my history and the way I can still fall for men even though I’d always say I prefer women. So I can fully understand Harry not wanting to defend himself. Doesn’t mean that it’s pretty obvious he and his team are pushing a narrative just like you say, AD.
But I digress. Thanks for Neon Red btw!!
(1) Hey there…I know this is an ‘older’ post, but I’ll comment anyway.
I’m still trying to figure out what exactly bugs me about this new Harry, and I think what I feel is smth like betrayal. I feel betrayed for what Fine Line means to me, for the feeling I had when the Lights Up and Golden mvs came out, he was completely open and I was listening with an open heart, vulnerability all around. And now he turned it into a manic party album. The Love on Tour show doesn’t fit with that delicate album at all, it just doesn’t. And the changes he made in the band don’t fit the album either. Not even the photographer fits, it all kinda sucks. I feel like I’m being ridiculed for taking the album at face value, like he’s saying “Ha, you actually believed that shit?!? LOL – come on, take it easy, it’s just fun & entertainment!”. Now, of course he doesn’t have to be totally miserable all the time, but it’s like the emotion is gone and he feels *ashamed* and stupid about what he wrote and about how open he was. And that makes *me* feel ashamed and stupid for loving him so much and for saying that he and Lights Up were my inspiration to write music myself. [continued above]
This peice of writing is one of your best it’s a difficult complex subject you have captured beautifully so many of the things that have bugged of of late about H. I kind of had to agree with Billy Porter’s criticism of H and do feel his latest exploits & behaviours have laid him open to receive that sort of criticism because it now casts doubt on his authenticity. All the comments are so thought provoking too ( I love this little haven on the Internet thanks to you ) I could say more but i’m entirely distracted by yolandagate O M G !! But just had to applaud you on your brilliant writing in this article 👏
Harry’s just a big old flaming faker! 🤣 He seems so disinterested on stage & he doesn’t sing his songs with any kind of passion anymore. Before he sings “Lights Up” he always says “This song changed my life” – really? In what way Harry? I’d like to bring a sign to one of his shows that says “Harry, can I help YOU come out?” 😉 I love Harry but I don’t like him very much any more. I totally understand Billy’s pov given that he thinks H is straight. Thanks for this excellent analysis AD! These two jokers are keeping you quite busy these days and I appreciate all of your hard work ❤
You’ve so perfectly articulated what’s been seriously annoying me about H for the past several months. Everything about him, including this tour, just seems so insincere. I hate to watch it, especially because Fine Line was the epitome of honesty and sincerity. I hate watching the regression that’s taken place. I do appreciate your kind reminder of WHY this back-stepping took place, but I guess at the end of the day, I really, REALLY hoped that Zarry would rise up out of the ashes like a Phoenix and face the world hand-in-hand. In time, perhaps they will. In the meantime, it’s one thing for H to not be “open”, it’s quite another to push this straight, O dating “female orgasm” script. As much as it breaks my heart if he’s not being open due to Z, I’d rather it be a sacrifice he’s making in the name of love, then it be because of his career & public image. Idk, he just seems very artificial right now, and I’m just not vibing with it.
Harry can’t even claim a friendship at the last…”We never really talked”,It so sad
This is the second part because my text was too long, here we go:
In the books, Aristotle is conflicted and ashamed of his sexuality and his immense attraction and love for Dante. He often asks if he was actually gay or if he only felt this way about Dante. There are many other challenges he has to face as well, but I’m going to focus on the sexuality bit for now.
I think Ari and Zayn are similar in this way because, as you have pointed out, Zayn seems ashamed of himself and tries to overshadow it by pushing false narratives. As for Harry, I feel as if he is more like Dante. In the books, Dante, from what we see (as the book is in Aristotle’s point of view), he is shown as doubtful. He believes he ought to be more feminine in order to have Aristotle truly love him even though Aristotle reminds him that he loves him for who he is. I feel like this is Harry, in a sense, because he seems really conflicted as well. And although both the relationships are not similar in a multitude of ways, some of the behaviour is the same and I just thought I’d point that out. Anyway, read the books, trust me, they’re brilliant. And, thank you for reading this lmao.
First off, I wanted to thank you for all the hard work you do and thank you for posting. I’ve been looking forward to your posts because of all the drama right now heh. Secondly I wanted to say I loved this last part where you talked about how they’re scared. The reason for this is a book I’ve finished recently. There are two books, the second one was released on 12th October this year. The names are: Aristotle and Dante discover the secrets of the universe, and Aristotle and Dante dive into the waters of the world. The two main characters, Aristotle and Dante are gay teens (I love reading about about gay men for some reason-) who go from friends to lovers and I cannot help but make connections to Zayn and Harry. Aristotle is the main character, and both the books are written from his point of view. I’ll try not to spoil too much in case anybody decides to read it.
(I will have to do two comments because my text was too long.)
Wait what?!! 🥺👀
Does anyone know whats going on, Zayn just posted this statement on Twitter.
edit:
OH NO I found it… 🥺😔 This is really bad. I fear press are gonna eat him alive- Im genuinely nervous for zayn
https://www.tmz.com/
“Leak”= Yolonda and Bella I think
I am disappointed in Harry for not staying with his truth but I understand why he did it. I think his team and Olivia talked him out of his truth and he went with it cause his heart was broken because of Zayn. I also think he is trying to protect Zayn cause I believe Zayn is still too scared to come out and be with Harry. I keep seeing pics of Harry wearing their colors, Zayn just posts a selfie of tears in his eyes. Not sure what is going on with these two idiots but I still love them even though I am disappointed with both of them. Time will tell and my only hope is that he gets rid of Olivia cause she really did nothing to help his reputation just hurt it. Harry in the beginning of his tour when he was singing Golden he said he was sorry and maybe he could be open someday, I think the sorry was for us Zarries, I think it bothers Harry a lot not to be open and proud and not living his truth, I just don’t understand how people think he is a straight guy when he wears a penis necklace all the time. Nothing stays hidden the truth will come out eventually.
Do you think the “friend” that gave Harry the golden thong🤪 was Zayn 🤣 sorry but I was watching old Zarry moments 🥲 and remember H also says a “friend of mine” when talking about Z
Why do I feel like we care a lot about their relationship than them? 🤔 Like; are the people they hang out with good for them, how is the relationship between z and fam. or h and fam., how is they music career the clothes they wear, I mean we care about E V E R Y T H I N G 😐; starting to feel like we are their parents 👪
Sometimes I get so frustrated I want to unsee everything about them but then 🥺they are so cute 😻, aaaahhhhh🥲
Zayn has really broken H, and I agree with everyone saying H is waiting for Z, because if he comes out Z might deny everything and H will be broken beyond repair 😢 and he is not ready to loose him and I don’t think he will ever be😔, (I wish I fall in love like that 🙂😌🤣)
AD you have really outdone yourself this time 👏👏, hope it shows on Google’s recommendations 😌 your success is also ours 😀
Hey there, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your kind words btw. I do moderate the hell out of this corner of the internet because it is my safe place that I built from scratch to air my controversial thoughts and unpopular opinions, and where I can choose whether or not to let others air their thoughts as well if we are generally coming from the same place, regardless of whether I agree with every single thing they say. And I love to interact with some of the people who stop by to share their thoughts, especially when they are not overly biased and defensive of Harry or Zayn, illogical or irrational or unfair in their reasoning, and not offensive towards me and my opinions. So thanks for even taking notice and being kind about what I do here.
Yes you’re very right, internalized homophobia sucks for both of them, and that means Zayn too. I certainly understand that it causes him to have his own struggles and personal plights and leaves him damaged and conflicted too. I was also particularly moved by this line you wrote: “to be rejected by the person who knows you deeply and most intimately could not feel more devastatingly personal, there’s no comfort from the reasoning “they don’t know the real me,” because Z does!” Wow. This is probably one of the most astute takes I’ve heard on their situation in a long time, and it’s a notion that has escaped me. I never thought of that before. Zayn is probably the only person on the planet that actually knows the real Harry based on things like “for your eyes only” and “I know the real you,” so Harry probably uses him as a gauge to see how the rest of the world might receive the hidden parts of him. Yet all he has known from Zayn’s perspective (even if Zayn doesn’t intentionally convey this) is a demand for more secrecy and bearding and engagement and babies because Harry is simply not good enough. He is not the right thing, and it is the hidden parts of Harry that are problematic and so Zayn would like them and his own hidden parts to remain buried while he elevates his life with Gigi and gives her a child. So I really cannot even begin to fathom how harry must feel about himself and how afraid he must be of coming out alone without Zayn if he has only faced rejection from the one person who knows the real him. Wow.
I fully understand why H won’t come out he loves Z immensely and would never want to hurt or put him at risk , H is also someone who puts people on a high pedestal and will forgive too many times he’s a people pleaser in general so imagine for the people he loves it’s insane and because I’m very similar in the sense I’ll damage myself if it means the people I love are happy it’s a toxic mentally but hey. so H slowly giving hints and clues r not queerbaiting cause sexuality is fluid and he may not have figured himself out properly yet it just hurts cause we can see from an outside perspective that H needs to grab Zs balls and give him an ultimatum either we’re out and do this properly or cut ties. it won’t work any other way. H is terrified of what would happen if he did come out and the consequences of that it is scary so imagine if the whole world would judge which is why I admire demi lovato so much despite their flaws they stand up for what they believe in and are very open about their struggles it’s refreshing.
on a separate note I can’t listen to WS anymore cause even though I knew it was a sexual song him saying it’s about the female orgasm makes me kinda hate the song
I cannot express how much my heart aches for harry. There is only so much pain one person can handle before they break. He had to endure mental torture for years just to get a tiny bit of love from zayn. Harry is damaged permanently! Makes me wonder if harry intentionally dropped clues – eg, the rose ring etc so that at least some people will pick up on it – since he’s not allowed to talk about it. His biggest fear is that zayn won’t ever talk about him or deny everything they had. This was harry’s way to let at least some people know that they’ve loved each other since they were teenagers, and what they had was real and can’t be denied! All these zarry videos and blog posts will stay on the internet forever – harry could always be like “just watch/read zarry documentaries”. This can’t be erased, even if zayn wanted it to be.
If Harry knew how powerful he is, even Zayn himself knows Harry can get any man or woman in the blink of an eye. The biggest problem is Zayn beauty is out of this world, that makes it very hard for Harry to move on, not only that Zayn knows Harry morethan anyone in this world and to top it up they know they are twin flame. There best thing they can do for themselves is to be seen in public as friends for atleast 2 years after that when there are in their 35, they can know admit we fall inlove, they will loose fans, but true fans will never run from them, because they choose their happiness before others. As for Zayn in reality wether we admit it or not his helpless without Harry is his life. While Harry his got more important friends who are gay themselves, both of them you see they are tired of living in pretence. One of the reasons Harry can’t move on its Zayn’s they way they know eachother body, it becomes very difficult to look for love elsewhere, because you other people can’t do what they do to eachother Zarry. Did anyone noticed Harry’s mom, is not happy at all, I believe she reads what is being said about her only son, I do believe she wants him to stop this PR game.
This was very interesting AD, I with you 100%. It’s really sad not being able to be your true self because you fear judgment from other people, i can only imagine the internal turmoil that he goes through ever single day, which am sure is not good for his mental health. I loved the Harry from late 2019 he was glowing and very happy. I stopped following his concerts because he felt less genuine on stage (maybe its just me) like I compared to last tour his a bit different on stage. I wish he stuck to te poetic interpretation of watermelon but anyway damage is done.
I believe for Harry to be open again Zayn has to step up, I wish his next album he would acknowledge Harry atleast (but are the chances of they happening). It’s always my prayer that at the of the day they start living their truth even if it’s away from public.
Zayn last Instagram posts he looked sad like he was crying 🤔 wonder why???
As always AD brilliant work
It is the “Final thought,” for me. I feel like that describes H fully; he will rather not come out or be more open, if that means losing Z. The baby situation and the aftermath behavior of H tells it all.
You have conveyed the heartache and struggle so viscerally through your writing. I can feel the heartbreak.
I agree with your analysis here, especially where you talk about Harry having the confidence and becoming more open ( maybe thinking it would move Zayn also) before the baby came and then retreating once the pregnancy became a reality.
I’m thinking of the lyric in “If I could fly” where Harry sings “I’m missing half of me when we’re apart.” It must be so frightening to Harry to think of Zayn ever wanting to pull away from him or wanting to have nothing to do with him, especially when he considers them both to be one half of a whole.person. How do you live as only half a person?
I also feel that Harry does care about all these things he is doing but he wouldn’t be using these things selfishly, as he is, if he wasn’t so consumed with Zayn and having the relationship he so desperately wants with him, … if that makes any sense.
Lastly, on Olivia, she is like the shark who smells blood in the water. When I see her picture I can honestly hear the music from Jaws, not gonna lie.🦈
Btw…”dancing like a cringy mid-life crisis”🤣🤣🤣🤣
So much I want to say. But, sigh……. let me just say this. Nothing breaks you apart and makes you question yourself, your value as human, your credibility as an individual like rejection does. Rejection, and most especially rejection from someone you deeply love and respect, is a death sentence. Harry’s in pain, Zayn’s in denial and Gigi and Olivia are draining the very source of their being from them.
I’m curious what Zayn will do now, if it’s true he and Gigi split. What other beard would put up with his shit? As toxic as his situation was, it was stable and he understood the dynamic.
I think for a long time Zayn has had the delusional idea that he could play both sides, maintain the public image he wants while keeping his relations on the down-low, like he and Harry could just keep everything completely separate and hidden from their public lives and have pr relationships with women. I think he also was in extreme denial and would constantly fall back to convincing himself that what he was feeling for Harry was nothing more than lust, like a craving rather than an identity.
But it feels like over the last year he’s had time to admit the truth to himself (“Tightrope”), so if he was the one stopping Harry before I feel like that could change now. Zayn is at a crossroads, he could choose to live his truth, to not is getting too much. I don’t think Gigi will let him back, mostly because I think Yolanda runs the ship and she knows that Zayn doesn’t have the clout he used to have. And if he won’t marry Gigi then they can’t get into his royalties, so he’s no longer of use to her.
He was finally ready to be open but z did what he’s best at doing and it destroyed h. I sometimes want to ask z how he feels about betraying his lover over and over again, in every relationship both the people are responsible for the downs but z has some major problems. Even hs latest ig story is so sad, it just screams that he’s not happy and it’s clearly taking a toll on him. Billy calling him out is his and his teams own doing ,going along with holivia. They are trying to convince everyone that hs straight and congratulations to them for succeeding because people are really believing. But even after all this it’s pitiful to be so sad all the time not just for h but also Mr unfu**witable who has literally convinced himself that he’s healed . Zs not lying when he says he’s healed , he has become delusional to think that he has. Maybe he is /was in the the process of healing but I’m sure seeing h trying to be staright breaks him again and again because no matter how selfish he is ,after seeing the open h this sad wanna be straight h must be killing z and some part of me is happy ,z being hurt . Z4 needs to be written for only and only h.
Harry is going to end up with the same disconnect that Z has to everyone..Zs lyrics have never fit the pr relationship..so so much of the beauty is just lost in translation..A huge part of music is the emotional connection..and now they just fall flat..even though both are very talented..They are on a path to becoming irrelevant..at least musically..Even people that have no idea their pr stunts aren’t real can tell things are off..
What the hell is Harry doing?? How long can this charade go on? Why does he care about how his being queer effects Zayn…this man BROKE YOUR HEART! He had a baby with a woman and disrespected you in the media! Harry should be angry, period. And vindictive. I think you are right AD, Harry is still very concerned about how Zayn perceives him and dare I say doesn’t want to burn that bridge if he and Zayn were to rekindle their romance.
Normally I don’t comment on any of your articles as I don’t usually agree with them but I do read them,however I really believe this is some of your finest work
With O around Fine Line it is difficult for me to hear and I can understand that there are people who see Harry the way Billy says.
For me H tried to be open once and I don’t know if he can be open again in a long time . He is young, he provides money to many people and many brands. I think in part he is not completely open because he is aware that everything would connect him with his years in 1D and once there Z would also be involved sooner or later. It is perhaps because Z is not ready that he is not ready either and prefers to wait until one day he is and to be together, than to be open with someone other than Z. I don’t like Harry from 2021 because it is part of Holivia. Harry plays a role on stage and when he is with her, but the eyes are the mirror of the soul and Harry, like Zayn now, is empty.
The moment the Holivia Pr come along i knew he was not done with Z , HE LOVE HIM THAT MUCH…sigh.. but seriously he need to be alone no PR , just take time with himself heal and eventually find love again.zayn tries to thicken his shell and stay in his hole. Both are miserable.Harry cross that line PLEASE ,Z can’t erase you even if he wanted , his feelings for you are haunting him too.Intentionally or not z has succeeded making harry think he could get over him, wake up harry he can’t that why he always doing unnecessary extra.LIVE FOR YOURSELF and see him having a breakdown
zayn breakdown is on my bucket list
I love this post so much, you did a great job as always.
I’m so mad at Harry for what he’s doing lately and I still want him to put an end to it but the fine line and the whole process he went through is making me extremely sad.
Also, this is the first time I’ve seen this part of the interview. UNBELIEVABLE! After reading this, a question came to my mind. Did he know he was going to get a bad reaction from Zayn before he released Fine Line, or did he never think Zayn would go this far?If he had known, I think he would never, never have released that album.
This topic is soo nuanced and complex and complicated that it’s hard to talk about in a way that makes sense, so kudos for doing it so eloquently.
I do think a lot of it boils down to Z’s internalized homophobia, whether that’s something people want to admit to or not. And I’m not blaming him for that, I know he didn’t choose to have it and it undoubtedly makes his own life so much harder and both he and H suffer because of it. And so I always felt that with H knowing Z and knowing that, that FL was not just him wanting to be open but a nudge to Z to be open too. I think a lot of it was to show him that there’s another option, acceptance. And despite what people say and despite how H has contributed to what they say about him at present, I believe that Z’s lack of acceptance is what affects H’s choices more than we think.
But I really don’t like what H said in some parts of those interviews. He meticulously creates things to expresses himself and he himself then reduces those things to only doing it for “fun” or because it’s “cool”, that and his ambiguity really do give Billy a valid point, as unknowing as he is about H’s truth. Can’t say it enough, but what a huge disservice
Haha omg Harvey Weinsteins bestie. You Crack me up!!
Part two- in my opinion I truly do believe that he desperately wants to be “open”. The image of him looking so sad and resigned after holding that flag up and shouting Freedom because I felt that he wants to do that for himself makes me think this. However, for a myriad of reasons he has decided to slam that closet door shut. I don’t mind that because he doesn’t have to come out and I would never advocate that. What I cannot get behind, though, is his association with that FACTUALLY loathsome individual called Olivia Wilde in order to divert suspicion away from his queerness. I just cannot support Harry as long as she is hanging around everywhere he goes like a bad smell, dancing like a tit at virtually all of his concerts to upstage him, and calling the paps at every opportunity to show that she is associated with him by wearing his tour merchandise so that she can get attention for herself in a pathetic and desperate way.
It is manipulation and an insult to my intelligence of the highest order. I do still care about Harry and I am still going to be sticking around here, but my admiration for him has faded and I have had to accept that. I still will always have hope though.
Thank you AD for this thought-provoking and honest post calling out Harry for his hypocrisy and manipulation of his public image to make him out to be something that he is not so that he is “acceptable” for more people. I would think that it was quite difficult for you because of how much you (and us Zarries) love him, but it does need to be said that what he is currently doing is so dishonest and hypocritical that more people need to be able to see outside his public persona and image that he is a very sad, broken young man and he’s trying to hide behind all this and almost flaunt his “straightness” so that nobody will suspect. I LOVED the Harry of 2019, I thought he was so different from every other celebrity and he was unabashedly himself and proud of it. I was delighted and happy to be his fan, and believe me I am no fan of celebrities, most of them I wouldn’t give the time of day. Now 18 months or so later, I see a Harry that it is still sort of there but barely and my heart hurts for him.
Was this supposed to make me laugh?
Some stuff you said 🤣🤣is hilarious.
I didn’t find anything to disagree with😁 very good post.
Ill wait for the comments they are the 2nd best thing
I think Harry and Zayn are both blind see that not being with each other is hurting both of them. Even when Harry was with Taylor,Kendall and Camille…they were ok but this one is really…UGH!! Like vom-inducing! Of all the women…you chose her?? I don’t know if this was done in order to make Zayn jealous but Zayn’s not doing anything either. Harry put his heart on the plate for Zayn and in return he just throws it out of the window. That would make anyone hide themselves in shame and rejection. That was a massive hit to Harry’s self esteem. That was betrayal. Both of them have done mistakes but no one is willing to step up and undo them. I think Harry should just dump this leech in the trash(where she belongs) and just come out with another man. Probably then Zayn would actually do something….or not. Again love the post and never stop bringing the truth forward.
It makes me sad. I don’t even know H and there’s definitely more to the picture than the angelic fangirl version of him. Honestly, I wanted to believe that, too. He was so vulnerable in his last tour and then bared his soul in Fine Line that I felt like we really saw his heart. I think we did to a point. What really stuck out in what you wrote is that the greatest cost of H coming out is Z probably never associating with him because of his fear of being seen as anything other than straight. I hadn’t even thought of that. I just know it would be a media circus of epic proportions and once he comes out, he can’t go back. At least Camille had the class to stay in the background and not be a groupie and do the PDA thing. They seemed very contractual–exactly 1 year, no pda, hardly seen together. This thing with O is different. I think he’s trying to convince himself that he can be straight if he wills himself to be and it’s because of how things played out with Z. All of this sucks. He has already created this image as a homewrecker and queer baiter. I don’t know if he can repair that unless he just takes a leap, comes out and doesn’t go back. It’s probably terrifying.
I completely understand where Billy is coming from, and from the outside what Harry is doing can definitely appear as superficial marketing and distasteful to those who feel genuine oppression for those things as part of their identity.
But I also feel like the people behind the scenes are probably in on the secret, Vogue, Gucci, the people who pull the strings probably know and the direction is coming from that place. I truly believe if Harry had his way he would have been out and open a long time ago, but he can’t so he has these more indirect ways of being open.
So why doesn’t he come out? Well I think he knows as soon as he comes out people will start connecting dots, and I’m of the opinion that even if he isn’t on good terms with Zayn he is still loyal to Zayn’s wishes and has love for him and will not implicate him against his will. So I think he’s just taking the consequences and doing what is necessary to stay in the closet and balance the line of being as open as he can be while covering things up “officially” – so messing around with gender norms and waving pride flags but not revealing anything indisputable.